As a female I do find myself constantly complaining about males these days and how many no longer uphold the traditional ideal that we grew up believing still existed.  I’m told that back in the day men were the one’s who did the pursuing, payed for all the dates, the bills, provided, protected while still maintaining a level of class, chilvary and romance.  In today’s society it feels like men are far lazier, many even complain about having to make the first move or sending the first texting when back then the situation used to be you had to go to a female’s house or send a letter, etc.  Partly this is due to the rise in technology and convience in contacting others which adds a level of power and control that men didn’t quite have way back when.  I also feel like the reason that is though is because women are far closer to being equals with men now-a-days then they were back in the day which shifts a lot of the responsibility.  We wanted to make just as much as men, to not to be judged for our sexual decisions, to be allowed numerous freedoms and equalities and be rid of the double standards that existed which I feel changed everything.  Females these days are constantly proclaiming to be independent and don’t need a man and put on a front as if we wouldn’t appreciate a guy who would pay for the date, etc.  We take advantage of the new freedoms we are given and run around with our new found “male mentality” but expect to be treated like ladies.  Society is stuck in an awkward position were women think that they can take up all the responisbilties of men while still being treated as a women while men feel that if women are going to act like men then they should partake in all the responsibilites men have had not just pick and choose, that if she is going to to earn money she should have to also make the first move, etc.  We sit here and complain about how chivalry is dead and men these days aren’t shit when it seems as if we ruined that ourselves.  Correct me if I’m wrong but didn’t we kind of ask for it?

You don’t deserve to be unhappy

in terms of relationships, is it better to get a chance and fail or to never get the chance?